Management vs Assistance

I am a science teacher in a government school. I #help my mother run the kitchen and of course house also as and when I have time to do so.

How my mother gets energy for this endless planning, remembering each thing to be needed for carrying out household activities and #organizing events. It was so exhausting in so many ways for me I never understood before.

It was real #education for me. I had to keep #track of groceries, vegetables and fruits. There were so many different categories of mental load inside my brain even when I was teaching in school.

I had to book a gas cylinder for the kitchen to be delivered to my house. I had to collect stitched clothes for my mother from the tailor. I had to collect a dance dress for my youngest sister from school. I had to keep track of my father’s medicine.

 Is my father taking all his medicines on time? Is help at home taking care of my father’s food? I had a list of infinite things in my head. I had to keep track of so many dates that I had to follow for some important domestic or office event. As a student of physics, I must say, that I had to keep track of #space and time domains relevant to me and my family.

My friends said, “When your mother is out for a few days you look so #anxious.”

In the heart of my heart, I used to tell myself alas! I could describe the inner #dynamics of my emotions to someone dear to me. To whom? I had no proper answer. I only wished I could share with someone my mental #agony.

Those 15 days when my mother was absent from her duties I realized there’s a significant difference between assisting my mother and managing an event alone. I was a single soul doing the same, and I was forced to take on the management role.

Now I have realized mental hardness is much more difficult than physical hardness. I have no words to describe the same.

Inside my heart, I thank my mother from the core of my #heart for allowing me to learn the difference between managing and assisting an event in life.

Managing the event of the house/ office is different from assisting the same. Managing whole family events involves leading and directing the whole family and controlling #resources. Assisting family events involves supporting family members by performing specific tasks and giving information.

The experience mentioned above is the knowledge I shared with my students to make them realize that working in different roles in life gives lifetime experiences.

Moral- Essentially, managers make #decisions and oversee operations, while assistants provide #support and carry out instructions. 

Sukarma Thareja 

Alumnus IITK 

India