My friend Ritu teaches history in my school. It takes her 2hrs to travel from home to school. Therefore she has to start from home early morning (5am) to reach school in time.
Her father is retired government servant and does not keep good health . Her father gets up around 7am in morning. Therefore Ritu is never able to #greet her father in morning except sunday or school holiday.
After her school, Ritu is busy teaching in coaching #academy near to her school, so by the time she reaches home her father has gone to sleep.
Ritu respects her father very much and out of affection always wishes to greet her father in morning. But her wishful thinking remains #incomplete.
On the other hand due to her late evening schedule she reaches home late at night. She does not want to disturb her respected father when he has gone to sleep. So to avoid inconvenience to her father Ritu has put limits/ #boundries in format of showing her #gratitude/affection to her dear father. She greets her father in morning either on sundays or school holidays.
Whenever Ritu buys any sari/ gold ornament for her dear mother, insted of being happy her mother gets #disturbed.
Ritu’s mother says” dear Ritu please do not spend any money on my #gifts. Please save money, I have to get you married to suitable boy. I need money for that.”
Ritu does not want to hurt mother therefore she has stopped buying #expensive gifts for her dear mother.
This is nothing but other #format of boundry for showing affection to her dear mother.
Both cases of showing affection/ gratitude to dear ones #discussed above sometimes put person who wishes to express gratitude under boundaries.
My personal experience also says same. On observing boundries in love and gratitude expression format formed by concerned person is helpful tool to lead #peaceful life.
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Sukarma Thareja
Alumnus IITK
India
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