My friend Ritu teaches history at my school. It takes her 2 hours to travel from home to school. Therefore she has to start from home early morning (5 am) to reach school on time.
Her father is a retired government servant and does not keep in good health. Her father gets up around 7 am in the morning. Therefore Ritu is never able to #greet her father in the morning except on Sundays or school holidays.
After school, Ritu is busy teaching at a coaching academy near her school, so by the time she reaches home, her father has gone to sleep.
Ritu respects her father very much and out of affection and respect always wishes to greet her father in the morning and evening. But her #wishful thinking remains incomplete.
On the other hand, due to her late evening schedule, Ritu reaches home late at night. She does not want to #disturb her respected father when he has gone to sleep. So to avoid inconvenience to her father Ritu has put limits/boundaries in the format of showing her gratitude/affection to her dear father. She greets her father in the morning either on Sundays or school holidays
Whenever Ritu buys any sari/ gold ornament for her dear mother, instead of being happy her mother gets disturbed.
Ritu’s mother says” Dear Ritu please do not spend any money on my #gifts. Please save money, I have to get you married to a suitable boy. I need money for the same”
Ritu does not want to hurt her mother therefore she has stopped buying expensive gifts for her dear mother.
This is nothing but another format of boundary for showing affection to her dear mother.
Both cases of showing affection/ gratitude to dear ones #discussed above sometimes put the person who wishes to express gratitude under boundaries.
My personal experience also says the same. Observing boundries in love and gratitude expression format formed by a concerned person is a helpful tool to lead a #peaceful life.
Moral- showing appreciation to parents through words and actions can strengthen the #bond between parents and children. Format of gratitude expression when put in boundries makes life peaceful.
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Sukarma Thareja
Alumnus IITK
India
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