Imagine that you are awake one morning over-flowing with enthusiasm for the day. You feel good. You are happy and have plenty of energy to face the day. Then at breakfast, you have a fight with your spouse, and a flood of emotion comes out. You get mad. And in the anger you spend a lot of personal power. After the fight, you feel drained and just want to go and cry, in fact you feel so tired that you go to your room, collapse and try to recover. You spend the day wrapped up in your emotions. You have no energy to keep going, and just want to walk away from everything.
Every day we awake with certain amount of mental, emotional and physical energy that we spend throughout the day. If we allow our emotions to deplete our energy, we have no energy to change our lives or to give to others.
The way you see the world will depend upon the emotions you are feeling. When you are angry, everything around you is wrong, nothing is right. You blame everything including the weather; whether it’s raining or the sun is shining, nothing pleases you. When you are sad, everything around you is sad and makes you cry. You see the trees and you feel sad; you see the rain and everything looks so sad. You do not trust anything or anyone around you. This is because you see the world with the eyes of fear!
Imagine that human mind is same as skin. You touch the healthy skin and it feels wonderful. Your skin is made for perception and sensation of touch is wonderful. Now imagine you have an injury and the skin gets cut and infected. If you touch the infected skin it is going to hurt, so you try to cover and protect the skin.
Now imagine that all humans have this skin disease. Nobody can touch each other because it is going to hurt. Everyone has wounds on their skin, so the infection is seen as normal, the pain is also considered normal; we believe we are supposed to be that way.
Can you imagine how we would behave with each other if all humans in the world had this skin disease? Of course we would hardly ever hug each other because it would be too painful. So we would need to create a lot of distance between us.
The human mind is exactly like this description of infected skin. Every human has an emotional body completely covered with infected wounds. Each wound is infected with emotional poison- the poison of all the emotions that makes us suffer, such as hate, anger, envy and sadness. An action of injustice opens a wound in the mind and we react with emotional poison because of the concepts and beliefs we have about injustice and what is fair. The mind is so wounded and full of poison by the process of domestication, that everyone describes the wounded mind as normal. This is considered normal, but I can tell you it is not normal.
We have a dysfunctional dream of the planet, and human are mentally sick with a diseases called fear. The symptoms of the diseases are all the emotions that make humans suffer: anger, hate, sadness, envy, and betrayal. When the fear is too great, the reasoning mind begins to fail, and we call this mental illness.
If we see our state of mind as a disease, we find there is a cure. We don’t have to suffer any longer. First we need the truth to open the emotional wounds, take the poison out, and heal the wounds completely. How do we do this? We must forgive those we feel have wronged us, not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because we love ourselves, so much we don’t want to keep paying for the injustice.
Forgiveness is the only way to heal. We can choose to forgive because we feel compassion for ourselves. We can let go of the resentment and declare,” that’s enough! “I WILL NO LONGER BE THE JUDGE THAT GOES AGAINST MYSELF. I WILL NO LONGER BEAT MYSELF UP AND ABUSE MYSELF. I WILL NO LONGER BE THE VICTIM.” Repeating this would clear up all your mindset and would make you free.
Excerpt taken from the book,’The Four Agreements’. All rights reserved by Publisher.