I was part of my daughter's life when she was in primary and secondary school. I was regular in guiding her about difficult questions of #homework in every subject.
For the subject of mathematics, I was very particular and would make my daughter do difficult exercises of Mathematics questions asked in the Olympiad national competition #examination.
To make my daughter good in English language grammar, I would help her in writing the main news in her notebook from newspaper.
To make my daughter efficient in public speaking, I would help her with #debate topics organized by the school.
Above mentioned activities of my daughter in which I was fully involved, I became part of my daughter's life and gradually changed her #maturity level.
As a mother, I was still on the look out to find ways so that I could be a part of my daughter's life. I took care that those ways of helping my daughter are appropriate for my daughter's age.
I used to do little crochet crafts with the help of a U tube with my daughter. Doing crafts together, going out to lunch or the #movies, going to the gym together or going away on a weekend together was a way of my life.
I made it a point, that my consistent presence in my daughter’s life should create a strong bond between me and my daughter. I tried my level best that I should be available to listen to her auto talk and give her some good #suggestions whenever possible.
Now my daughter has grown up. Sometimes mother and daughter have some very passionate disagreements. There are times when I(my mother) feel like my daughter’s degree of #disagreement has gone to a higher level.
When this happens, I back off a bit, but don't let her think that I am angry.
Even if my daughter says something in anger that hurts my feelings, I always say, “My daughter I understand you are feeling bad, but I love you and it just makes me feel sad when you get so angry. I am sorry if I did anything to #upset you, and I am here for you.”
As daughters become women and have their own families, sometimes they have to face odd circumstances and they do not agree with their mom.
The fact of life is daughter /daughter-in-law will always need #mother.
I wish and pray to God ”Please give me ( mother)strength as I am part of my daughter’s life, the same way I should become part of my daughter-in-law's life and #strengthen my son’s family.”
In the language of Mathematics, let variable daughter = daughter-in -law and all happening remain the same as mentioned above about my daughter.
Moral: When mothers are part of daughter and daughter -in-law life in positive way, there is peace and harmony in family.
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Sukarma Thareja
Alumnus IITK
India.
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