"In life you have to make sacrifices".
I've heard this sentence many times. And I think to myself; if you convey that you are willing to make sacrifices over and over again, won't you get just that in return: pain, sadness, grief, worry, suffering, frustration...and yes, you will indeed make sacrifices all your life?
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So, no. You don't have to make any sacrifices, anything you don't want to do or to be..
Sometimes life puts us in situations, seemingly more difficult, and how we react and act is our decision alone.
Some people choose to make so-called sacrifices, so that later it will be better, so that tomorrow they will reward themselves and because it will be worth it. But who guarantees us that tomorrow or that later? And do you really feel it's worth it or do you just ,,, have no choice,,,?
Others don't. We live here and now without knowing what tomorrow will bring and that tomorrow is the product of our actions today. Specifically, the reflection of what we convey through our present actions, the reaction to emotions, that our actions generate in the here and now.
You are the priority of your own life and you don't have to accept anything you don't want. Not out of selfishness, not out of arrogance, but because as long as you feel constrained and sacrificed by your own seemingly rational decisions, the decisions of others or the rules imposed by society, you will only manage to emit negative emotions and the results will be as bad as they get.
Sacrifice is a product of pride and also a forced way of feeding. Sacrifices like, I gave up... because..., don't you see what I did? or I could do that for you and you didn't even want to? are just forms of attention-seeking, manipulation and seeking external validation for a wounded ego.
When a person sacrifices him/herself for a supposedly better purpose or for another person, who in most cases does not even want it, he/she does not feel at ease, but is forced by circumstances with the excuse that he/she had no choice. She/He is actually seeking appreciation, praise, fame and comfort through and from external sources.
As for making sacrifices for another person, surely if they really care about you, they won't ask you to. The universe knows no boundary between you and another person, so a good done to someone else and a bad done to you will equal zero. That's if it went well. Otherwise you are left with only two damages.
Giving up sacrifices does not mean giving up the idea of securing your future or giving up thinking about others and living as selfishly as possible, but doing all of these things just in a natural way without feeling forced or obligated by anyone or anything.
Compromises come naturally and even though they may be small delays, changes in situations or giving up plans, they will not cause harm to you or to another person.
A compromise comes naturally. Sometimes you don't even know you've made it until after it's been consummated, because you consciously or unconsciously accept the idea of balance between what you have to give to get what you want. You focus only on your present actions, without thinking about the outcome. You simply know it..
Compromises can be categorized as sacrifices, but very small and accepted ones that, in turn, don't take you out of your natural environment and don't force you to give up or change the way you think or live. On the contrary, they bring happiness, gratitude and inner peace, creating positive emotions and therefore positive results.
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