A few days back, I was talking to my young friends.
One of my young friends, a mother of three cute #kids was confused about her life.
She said ” Madam I remain so much confused the whole day. My kids are driving me crazy. “
My young friend continued” I sometimes feel I am not a good mom. My kids are making me so much uncomfortable. I’m losing my patience. Every night, I wonder how am I going to continue like this.”
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I said dear friend” Your youngest child is a small #baby. Babies do cry. That’s how they communicate. Your daughter is a toddler. #Toddlers do scream sometimes. Your eldest kid #teenager. Teenagers are in the habit of complaining. They have their problems.”
I further added” Teenage is transition to adult hood. Teenagers undergo physical and emotional changes. Sometimes they are confused about the norms of society. Hence they are not able to concentrate on their studies. Therefore my friends have multiple issues that they face in life. Many teenagers do not have enough expression and skill to speak out about their problems.”
I further explained to her” Sometimes moms, do mutter ‘for heaven’s sake’ under their breath before answering their unique questions. That’s just the way mom talks. “But guess what?
Dear friend, please do understand children should express themselves rather than opt to remain silent. A house filled with noise, with fighting teens and non-stop questions from younger kids, is a healthy #home”.
My friend said” I should truly worry if my children are silent. My toddler daughter is too scared to express herself. My #teenage son does not talk to me.”
I said dear friend” By the way, kids don’t drive you insane, you are a little crazy to think on those lines.”
With my small explanation, my young friend understood key points of her uncomfortable levels about her kids.
She at once took a big breath. That moment she realized that maybe she was doing okay as a parent.
I further said ” Dear friend! You are great and doing well as the mother. Please continue #mothering your children in the right direction. Please do thank almighty God for precious gifts in the form of children. These energetic noble #souls are part of your life. They are treasure of your life.”
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Sukarma Thareja
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