As a baby, we used to scream and cry a lot, as a kid we used to talk a lot, but as an adult, all of that somewhere vanished from us.
It is probably because we learn that showing emotions makes us vulnerable. And others especially those who want to hurt us will use our vulnerability against us.
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So we decided to go silent. React as little as we can. Keep our reactions, and emotions to ourselves as much as possible.
But still, there are those who even after growing up still retain their childlike sensibility. Some call them fools while I see them as innocent. For one reason or the other, they haven’t seen the harshness of this world.
So they can still express themselves openly to others. However, I have seen through my own eyes that these people get hurt a lot too. But they don’t stop being who they are. Somehow they refuse to let the hurt that comes from others change them.
I truly respect these people.
Now those who choose to go silent, while their enemies can’t hurt them because their enemies don’t know what they are thinking about or what makes them weak. It also applies to their loved ones.
Their loved ones also don’t know what makes these people happy, what and when they will open themselves up. That causes a rift and a lot of misunderstanding in their personal relationships.
Somewhere along the line, this silence becomes part of their lives. It is a fact that we are humans with emotions and opinions. Our creator gave us these for a reason. And keeping all these inside somehow damages us inside out.
But even if we try we can’t let our feelings out because we don’t know how to do that. Being silent for such a long time made us forget about expressing ourselves and our needs.
These emotions do release but in some other extreme way because all of the emotions are coming out at once.
Another reason why we should sometimes express ourselves is because we interact with our own species through these emotions.
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Laughing on the same topic can bring one or more people together. The same goes for when sharing the same opinion or interest.
On the opposite side, those who share our opposite humor or opinion help us understand that they are not our preferred group. In short, it also helps us bond with the right people.
While I believe in the phrase mentioned in the title I also believe that balance is important.
Otherwise one day you will feel like you are trapped inside of yourself. And it gets quite suffocating because you stay silent at times when you should have said something.
I recommend finding a safe place to let your thoughts and emotions out.For me, it is a friend of mine. She listens to all my thoughts worries and feelings and then advises me. Kind of like a therapist but without any charge.
Some use writing as a way but I don’t recommend it as it doesn’t talk back to you and doesn’t let you know the meaning of your emotions or solution to your problems. Writing is best when something is bothering you.
By releasing your thoughts and feelings in that safe place you will have the practice of self-expression.
And initially, when you meet someone you can stay silent. But if they earn your trust in the future, you will also be able to be open with them. Because you know how to.
Thank you for staying until the end!
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