I am very good when it comes to judging people.
Yes, you heard it right I am a judgemental person.
I am because I don’t believe in good people. I believe as humans we have both good and bad. And we show them based on situations and people we are dealing with.
So in my opinion there are no good and bad people, just people.
The biggest evidence of this is your school bully who is evil towards you but a saint towards your friends. And if you tell your friends, they will never believe this evil side because they have only seen the good side.
But the bully is a person. Based on situations and the person he was dealing with, he was showing good or bad sides of him.
A famous saying can be applied here
How do you think this happens?
Anyway, I was bullied a lot in school. Teachers wouldn’t even believe me because he was a good guy. And that was my first exposure to people and their nature. Of course, I was too young to understand this back then.
But in my life, I have many people who make mistakes while examining others. Most of my loved ones believe either people are completely good or completely bad.
And these judgments are based on what?
Based on their facial features, and a few conversations they had with them.
Which is never accurate. You can’t determine who is who, in such a short period of time. At the most, these observations can be a baseline.
While I can see others for who they are, the people close to me can’t. And even when I warned them, they criticized me for being too judgemental or critical.
And in the end, they do get hurt because of misjudgment.
And sometimes they come and tell me, I was right and sometimes don’t. I don’t care if they acknowledge my observation or not. I didn’t tell them to boast, but to keep them from getting hurt, to protect them.
And it hurts me because all I want is to see them happy, that big smile on their face. But after getting backlash too many times, now I have stopped.
I have realized sometimes people need to learn their own lesson. No matter how much we try to warn them, the lesson beforehand sometimes just doesn’t work.
Because without suffering a lesson is just simple advice.
Rather than labeling others as good or bad, first, we should see them from a neutral perspective, and let their actions decide for them who they are.
In this way, your expectations won’t get crushed and your view towards them will always stay flexible.
Thank you for staying until the end!
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