Say “Thank You” in these seven situations to improve your life. I doubt I’m the only one who doesn’t say “Thank You” as often as I should.
In fact, I’m beginning to think that “Thank You” is the word that is used the least and is not appreciated the most. It is a better response than most of what we say and can be used in almost any circumstance. Let’s talk about seven common scenarios in which we should say “Thank You” instead of saying various things.
1. When you are the recipient of a compliment, say “Thank You.”
We frequently devalue compliments by acting overly humble or devaluing the statement. You might think this keeps you from coming across as arrogant or cocky on the inside.
The problem is that you don’t acknowledge the person who was nice enough to say something when you deflect praise from a genuine compliment. Simply saying “Thank You” allows you to appreciate the compliment and fully acknowledge the person who gave it.
For instance: It looks great in your dress.
In place of: Oh, that ancient thing? I’ve had it for a long time.
Try to say: I’m grateful. I’m happy that you like it.
For instance: Wow! 20 points this evening You played the game very well.
In place of: Yes, but in the third quarter, I missed that wide open shot.
Try to say: I’m grateful. It was a pleasant evening.
For instance: Today, your presentation was a disaster!
In place of: Did I? Up there, I felt so nervous. I’m glad that it looked okay.
Try to say: I’m grateful. I’m glad it went smoothly.
When you fully accept a compliment, you feel more confident. At the point when you redirect acclaim, you can’t exactly possess it. When you simply say “Thank You,” you allow the compliment’s weight to become your own. When you say “Thank You,” you give your mind permission to be strengthened by compliments.
Although receiving compliments ought to be enjoyable, we frequently ruin the experience. You shouldn’t take advantage of compliments that come your way. Gracefully accept them and relish the present.
2. When you are running late, thank them.
The worst thing is being late. It is disrespectful to the person who is waiting and stressful for the person who is running late.
Although saying “thank you” to someone for taking care of your problems is odd, it is exactly the right thing to do. The majority of people just walk in and say, “Sorry, I’m late.”
The issue is that this response still focuses on you. I’m late, sorry. When you say “Thank You,” you turn the other person’s situation around and acknowledge the sacrifice they made by waiting. I appreciate your patience.
Example: You arrive 14 minutes late at the door.
In place of: I’m sorry to be late. The outside traffic was insane.
Try to say: I appreciate your patience.
Someone else frequently gives up when we make a mistake. While praising their patience and loyalty is preferable, our default response is to apologise for our failure. In spite of your error, thank them for what they did.
3. When you are offering someone comfort, say “Thank You.”
It can be awkward for someone to come to you with bad news. The majority of people don’t know what to say when you want to be a good friend. I’m aware that I’ve felt that way before.
Adding a positive side to a problem is often what we think is best. We fail to realize that it doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to say. Well, at least you have…” All you really need to do is be there and express gratitude to them for trusting you.
Example: The mother of your coworker recently passed away.
In place of: At the very least, you can cherish many fond memories.
Try to say: I am grateful that you shared that with me. I know how hard this is for you.
Example: Your brother’s job was cut.
Rather than: ” At least your health is good.
Try to say: I am grateful that you shared this with me. I am here to help you.
Example: The pet of your friend just died.
In place of: Basically they had a long and blissful life.”
Try to say: I am grateful that you shared that with me. I’m here to help you.
We need someone to share our pain more than we need words to ease our suffering in times of suffering. Simply respond with “Thank You” whenever you are stumped.
4. When you receive helpful feedback, say “Thank You.”
We don’t often see feedback used in a positive way. The typical response is to get defensive, whether it’s an unfavorable performance review from your boss or an email from a dissatisfied client. It’s a pity because the proper response is to simply respond with “Thank You” and make use of the information to improve.
Model: ” This is not good enough work. I figured you’d do better.
In place of: You don’t get it. This is what actually transpired.
Try to say: I appreciate you expecting more from me.
For instance: The product I purchased last week is already broken. This experience has made me unhappy.
In place of: What did you do with it? In our terms and conditions, we made it abundantly clear that the product is not intended to function in all circumstances.
Try to say: I appreciate you expressing your thoughts. Please know that we are determined to improve. Could you provide more specifics regarding the issue?”
Failing is just a data point, and nobody likes to fail. Thank yourself for constructive criticism and use it to improve.
5. Say “Much obliged” while you’re getting uncalled for analysis.
Criticism may not always be helpful. It’s just vengeful and cruel. I’ve written before about how to deal with people who don’t like you, but one of the best things you can do is simply say thank you and move on.
The power of someone else’s criticism is immediately neutralized when you thank them. It cannot develop into a larger argument if you do not consider it to be significant.
For instance: This may be useful advice for novices, but it is pointless for those who know what they are doing.
In place of: Well, it’s obvious that I wrote this for newcomers. Although this may come as a surprise, not everything was written with your interests in mind.
Try to say: I appreciate you voicing your opinion. I’ll try to get better the next time.
For instance: This is the dumbest thing I’ve read all week, your statement.
In place of: You are a fool. Let me explain why…” Try saying: I appreciate your feedback. I still need to learn a lot.
Being mature means letting go of the need to win every argument. What erroneous statement was made online? Why not? By the way you live your life, you can win the argument.
6. When someone gives you advice without asking, thank them.
In the gym, this shows up a lot. Everyone has an assessment on what your method ought to resemble. Although hearing someone’s opinion about you when you didn’t ask for it can be annoying, I think most people are just trying to be helpful.
In a video I posted online, someone once pointed out some flaws in my squat technique. I mockingly inquired if he had a video of himself performing it correctly in response. I had the presumption that if I reminded him that his method wasn’t perfect, it would make me feel better about the fact that mine wasn’t either. That is a defensive and unnecessary response.
Which method is superior? Simply say, “Thank You.”
For instance: When you do that exercise, you really ought to keep your hips back.
In place of: Is that so? Do you have a video of you doing it so I can see it done right?
Try to say: I appreciate your help.
Making others’ mistakes doesn’t make your own better. Even if no one asked, say thanks to those who helped you become more self-aware.
7. When you are unsure of whether or not to thank someone, say “Thank You.”
Saying “thank you” suffices when in doubt. There is no disadvantage. Do you honestly worry that you will overdo it when you express gratitude to the people in your life?
“Should I send a card of appreciation in this circumstance?” You should, yes.
Should I pay him a tip? Say thank you at the very least if you don’t.
Say “thank you” more frequently.
-I appreciate you reading.