THE 6 SIDES OF A COIN: I USED TO SEE ONLY TWO SIDES-UNTIL EVERYTHING CHANGED!
For the longest time, I saw life the way most people do—like a coin with only two sides. Either something was right or wrong, good or bad, fair or unfair. I judged people this way, including myself. If someone did something hurtful, they were bad. If they were kind, they were good. If I failed, it meant I wasn't enough. If I succeeded, it meant I was worthy.
I didn't realize how limiting this mindset was until one night, something unexpected happened—something that changed the way I see everything.
THE MOMENT THAT CHANGED MY PERSPECTIVE
January 26, 2025, at 10:26 PM. I was cooking, lost in my thoughts, when suddenly, a phrase entered my mind: "The 6 sides of a coin."
It felt random, but at the same time, it didn't. There was something about it that felt important. So I grabbed my phone, wrote it down—along with the exact time and date.
After I ate, I looked at my note again. "Why did this thought suddenly appear? What does it mean?"
Then, something even strange happened.
The next day, I woke up feeling different. The people who used to bother me—the ones I held grudges against, the ones I thought would never change—suddenly didn't affect me anymore. I wasn't angry, hurt, or disappointed. I didn't even need an apology from them. It wasn't that I forced myself to forgive—it was that I simply "understood".
And that's when it hit me.
I had been looking at life the wrong way all along.
HOW I USED TO SEE THE WORLD: THE 2 SIDES OF A COIN
Before, I only saw things in two ways:
1. HEADS – The Face People Show This is all I used to see—the smiles, the words, and the way people reacted. I believed those things were the whole story. If someone was kind, I thought they were kind inside as well. If they seemed distant or cold, I assumed they just didn't care. I didn't stop to think about what might be going on beneath the surface. I was only focused on what they showed on the outside, and that influenced how I saw them. But now, I realize there's always more to a person than what they let others see.
2. TAILS – The Hidden Actions I Couldn't Ignore Then there was the other side—the part people didn't always show but that still existed. The lies, the mistakes, the betrayals. If I saw someone do something wrong, I believed that was their truth. No matter what they showed on the surface, their actions defined them in my eyes.
For years, this was how I lived. I judged others quickly, and I judged myself the same way. Either I was doing well or I was failing. Either someone was worth my time or they weren't. I had no in-between. Until I realized—I was missing so much more...
HOW I SEE THE WORLD NOW: THE 6 SIDES OF A COIN
I realized that a coin isn't just heads and tails. And neither are people, situations, or even myself. There are six sides. And when I started seeing them, my entire perspective changed.
1. HEADS– The Face People Show This is still the first thing I see. But now, I know it's not the full story. A smile doesn't always mean happiness. Anger doesn't always mean hate. What people show isn't always what they feel.

2. TAILS– The Actions That Tell a Different Story I still pay attention to what people do, but I no longer assume that one action defines them. Maybe someone is rude because they're in pain. Maybe they push people away because they're afraid. I've learned that actions have reasons, and they're not always what they seem.

3. THE EDGE– The Boundaries That Shape Us This is the connection between both sides. It's the experiences that shape people—their past, their struggles, their fears. When I started considering this, I stopped expecting people to be who I wanted them to be and started seeing them for who they truly are.

4. THE CORE– Who They Truly Are Beneath Everything Deep down, beneath the surface and beyond their actions, there is the real person. The part of them that hasn't changed since they were young. Some people hide it well, even from themselves. But I've learned to look past the layers and see the real person underneath.

5. THE WEIGHT– The Burdens They Carry A coin has weight, and so do people. Pain, regret, trauma—these things weigh people down. I used to wonder why some people seemed so cold or distant, but now I ask myself, "What weight are they carrying?" Understanding this has made me more patient and less judgmental.

6. THE SHADOW – The Parts They Don't Even See Themselves This is the hardest side to see. The hidden fears, the subconscious habits, the deep-seated wounds that even they don't recognize. I've realized that some people hurt others without even knowing why. But instead of taking it personally, I now ask myself, "What are they fighting inside?"

HOW THIS CHANGED TRANSFORMED ME
Before, I was stuck in a cycle of frustration. I expected people to act a certain way. I waited for apologies. I believed that some people would never change, and I held onto that belief like a shield.
But now? I don't need apologies. I don't need explanations. I don't even need people to change. Because I "understand". I no longer take things personally. I no longer carry unnecessary anger. And most of all, I no longer feel trapped by the idea that people are only one thing or another.
Now, I see all six sides of the coin. And because of that, I've finally found peace.
FINAL THOUGHTS
I used to see life as either good or bad, right or wrong—so simple, so clear. But then something deep inside me changed. I realized there's so much more than what meets the eye.A coin doesn't just have two sides. It has six. And once I opened my heart to see all of them, everything changed. The way I see others, the way I see myself—nothing will ever be the same again.
DISCLAIMER: The thoughts and perspectives shared here are based on my personal journey of self-realization. This is simply how I see the world now, and my intention is to share this newfound perspective—not to influence or change anyone else's. I fully believe that each person has their own unique path to understanding and self-awareness. This writing is my way of channeling my thoughts, and if others find it helpful, they are welcome to apply it in their own lives. However, if it doesn't connect with you, that's perfectly fine. My intention is not to push any belief onto anyone but simply to share my own experience.
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